When we are born we come with nothing and we go with nothing. In between we try to make a contribution to our family, community and the world around us.
The transition to becoming a caregiver is difficult, the biggest challenge is going from having lots of time for yourself and an ability to make plans, to having no time. Much like a mother I guess. I was given a ringside seat into old age and death. Watching the decline, you are forced to confront the mortality of your loved one as well as your own.
High dependency needs mean that no matter how much you love the one you are caring for you get very tired. The forced isolation can be lonely for a lot of people. My experience wasn’t so much the loneliness but more the loss of “me” time. Early in the caregiving role when I was able to go out for a couple of hours I would joke with my friends that my visa was up and I had to get home before my visa was cancelled.Continue reading