Her first experience of the hospice was when she came to visit a younger family member. Someone important enough to travel over 1000km to see, despite her poor health. Her life had become a struggle over the last three years. Her lung failure had caused heart failure. Shortness of breath made even walking difficult. Leg swelling caused leg heaviness which made walking torturous at times. Over the years she had collected health problems but managed to continue with her life. Her relative had only been unwell once, and the illness was taking her life away. A sad time for the entire family, especially the elders. It is against the natural order of life for a child to die before a parent, but when you are elderly already it must be so much worse.